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Why is it so hard to trust yourself?

Not trusting yourself is a hallmark of addiction

"Constantly second guessing. Waffling. Changing course. Deferring to others. Flip flopping. Scrolling through emotions. Believing and not believing at the same time.  Wanting something but acting in ways that make it impossible to have. Self- sabotaging.  All of these are classic symptoms of a terrible malady."  

"People who do not trust their own knowledge, beliefs, commitments, and emotions suffer from a lack of self-trust. When that lack of self-trust extends to most areas of a person’s life, she may come to see herself as and actually be untrustworthy to herself. There are many reasons for and circumstances under which a person loses trust in herself."

"Not trusting yourself is a hallmark of addiction; addiction saps self-trust."

Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/philosophy-stirred-not-shaken/201405/why-is-it-so-hard-trust-yourself


Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

It's all about Trusting God and giving God Control.

With CR we give control to God and corrupt compulsive, symptomatic, addictive behavior is controlled. Hurts, habits and hangups are overcome. Giving control to God does not mean you become a zombie robot. Trusting God is cognitive choice, an intellectual decision. With God as our personal psychotherapist, we anticipate those target moments that precede any habit or hangup, our compulsive behavior. When we give God control, He returns the control to us, empowering us with direct appropriate behavior based on His biblical values and mores.

2 Corinthians 12:9 "My grace is sufficient for you, for there is power in weakness."
This is what, “Trust,” is all about, trusting God and giving Him control.  Surrender is about, “Intelligent Delegation (ID). “ Simply deciding to delegate control to a Trusted, more qualified Person.  Surrender is Obedience to God and involves a simple but profound decision, a yes or no decision, to make Christ the, “Chief Operation Officer, in your life (COO).”
John 14:16-17 16 And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—  17 the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you.
When you Surrender your life to Christ, when you trust your personal COO, you don’t lose control, in fact you regain control.  You gain control of your life. With God's grace you turn a weakness into a new power! The Holy Spirit returns that control to you as, “Reciprocal Facilitation." (you give to God-He gives back to you RF).” The bottom line is that you think before you act and you think with the character, values, motivation and purpose of Christ. This is God’s promise in John 14:16-17.

People change when they hurt enough and have to or learn enough and want to. Learn to trust God, think and make a decision. When you truly trust God, you will trust your new thinking. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Change your thinking and change your life.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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