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Why Do Some People Do Self-Destructive Things?

"What seems completely inexplicable, however, are self-destructive behaviors which are not inherently pleasurable, even temporarily. Some examples:

Road rage. What is the benefit of fighting with strangers? The potential for an untoward result is apparent. Similarly, some people will argue repeatedly with traffic police, fellow employees, a spouse, and anyone who crosses their path with the result over and over again of alienating someone from whom they wish to obtain some benefit."

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Addictions always serve an emotional purpose. Addictive behavior is never random. There is always a reason and a reward. People do seemingly self destructive things because it empowers them over their trapped feelings and lack of control. It's a way for the abuser to regain control over their emotions!
Road rage is a classic example. Road rage occurs when a person feels intolerably helpless, trapped, powerless and out of control for the moment. The person empowers themselves with rage. Getting mad, cursing, using hand expletives are displaced-substitute methods of regaining control, of an out of control situation.

The best antidote is a direct healthy method and not a displaced method to regain control. Give Christ control, delegate control to Christ and He will reciprocate or empower you to regain control with values or fruits of the Holy Spirit, not the least of which is self control. When you have a personal relationship with Christ, your thinking will change and your behavior will follow.

Change your thinking and change your life.


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"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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