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THINK Before You Speak in Anger

"Anger confounds many people in our world today. We simply don’t know how to handle our anger like we have in the past. One of the Bible’s simplest yet most profound answers for our anger comes in Proverbs 29:11: “Stupid people express their anger openly, but sensible people are patient and hold it back” (GNT)."

"When conflict arises and you give yourself time to think, what should you think about? Consider these five questions:"

T: Is it truthful? Is what I’m about to say the truth?

H: Is it helpful? Or will it simply harm the other person?

I: Is it inspirational? Does it build up or does it tear down?

N: Is it necessary? If it’s not necessary, why do I need to say it?

K: Is it kind?

THINK before you speak. Reflect before you react. It’ll slow down your anger every time.

Read more: http://rickwarren.org/devotional/english/think-before-you-speak-in-anger


Proverbs 29:11 is the core of all addictive compulsive behaviors, every hurt, habit or hangup. All our actions and reactions begin in the primitive limbic system with feelings or emotions. How we react with our thinking cortex determines whether we exhibit Direct healthy behavior or Displaced-substitute behavior. Addictions are all substitute (or displaced) actions. Addictions take the place of a more direct response to feelings of helplessness in a particular situation.

Compulsive Anger is just like any other addictive behavior when we let it control us with displaced behavior. All hurts, habits and hangups can result in displaced behaviors instead of direct healthy behaviors. Direct and Displaced behaviors are always used to regain control over feeling overwhelmed, helpless, trapped and lacking control. We always have a choice of behaviors. The trick is to learn or relearn Direct Healthy Behavior. The best Direct Healthy Behavior is Christ Driven Behavior that honors God.

All compulsive behaviors serve and emotional purpose. All compulsive behaviors are preceded by emotional feelings of overwhelming helplessness, feeling trapped and feeling out of control. Anger is a paragon example.

1. Don’t let your emotions dictate your behavior: Proverbs 29:11 (NKJV):  "A fool vents their feelings, a wise person holds them back." (Addictive behavior, all hurts, habits and hangups are a (displaced) emotional responses to overwhelming feelings of helplessness, hopeless, frustration, being trapped, powerless and out of control).

2. Change your thinking:  Romans 12:2:  "Don't be conformed to this world but instead be transformed with new thinking." (We can respond to adversity with displaced behavior or direct healthy behavior, which is Christ Driven Behavior based on Christ’s values and tenets…)

3. Surrender or Delegate Control to God (ID): 2 Corinthians 12:9-10:  “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” (Surrender control to God, Intelligently Delegate control to Christ over life’s inevitable feelings of helplessness…..).

4. God returns the control to use through a Helper, the  Holy Spirit (RI) John 14:16:  “I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— (We regain control of our helpless trapped feelings with the mentorship of the Holy Spirit, this is Reciprocal Innervation-we give God Control-He returns the control with Christ like thinking, values and purpose).  

5. We demonstrate Character with  self-control the values of the Holy Spirit: Galatians 5:22-23:   “The fruits of the Spirit are self-control, love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and gentleness.” (Regain control of your life in a healthy way with Christ Driven Behavior that honors Christ. If you have a choice, choose a better life, of healthy direct Christ Driven Behavior that imbibes Character. Character is putting the values of Jesus Christ into habit). 

6. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. —2 Corinthians 5:17

This is the synergy of behavioral science and scripture, taught over 2000 years ago. Change your thinking and change your life.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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