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Porn Habit – Indulgence or Addiction?

Porn usage can damage relationships as well as your mental health.
 
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Given the prevalence and easy access to pornographic material these days, use of porn has become an issue that impacts more people now than ever before. The widespread problem of overuse of porn is taking a serious toll on relationships, and the pain that it causes often outweighs the fleeting pleasure that users experience. Many professionals view usage of porn in similar terms and perspectives as drug addiction. The process and symptoms are quite similar.

In any addiction, there is a desire and effort on the part of the user to achieve some gratification or escape. There is an interest in altering one’s mood or arousal state. It serves as a coping strategy to distract from uncomfortable feelings, such as disconnection, rejection, loneliness, sadness, frustration, anger or anxiety. Both porn and drug usage provides a temporary soothing to these emotions, and when relied upon, the habit can build insidiously.

Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/therapy-in-mind/201408/porn-habit-indulgence-or-addiction


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"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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admin: If you want to know if the internet or any hurt, habit or hangup is addictive for you, ask yourself three simple question:

 

1. Does your behavior separate you from God? (The greatest evil of addiction is that it separates the addict from God).
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Are you making, "False idols," out of your behavior? (The psalmist asks, “How long will you love delusions and seek false gods?” (Psalm 4:2).
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Do you use the internet, games, devices or any activity as an attempt to control emotional circumstances in your life that make you feel powerless, frustrated, trapped and helpless? In other words, does the compulsive behavior serve as a displaced behavioral attempt

to escape the trap and regain control over overwhelming emotional feelings of helplessness, powerless or being trapped?

 


Addictive acts are never random. They are always precipitated by something that is emotionally important. People don’t get drunk, angry or watch porn for hours for nothing, they do so because something has upset them. Although everybody is different, everybody does feel an overwhelming helplessness at the point they decide to take a drink, place a bet, get angry, watch porn, whatever the addiction. At that point people feel trapped and lacking control. 

People reverse their helplessness, empower themselves with the addictive act of getting angry, watching porn or getting drunk or whatever the displaced addictive behavior. 
Every addictive act is a substitute for a more direct behavior. This fact leads to one of the important parts of a modern treatment of addiction: If addicts can learn to address their rage at helplessness directly, then it manifests simply as an assertive act. When people act directly, there can be no addiction. 

 

Victory of your addiction is easy. Make your Direct Behavior a, "Christ Driven Behavior!"
This isn't rocket science,  this is the marriage of science and scripture.
Change your thinking and change your life!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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"I am a Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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