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Infidelity vs Addiction: What Is the Difference?

Is your partner a sex addict, or just a cheater?
 
"After nearly three decades spent treating cheaters, sex addicts, and their betrayed partners, and writing multiple books on sex addiction, infidelity, and digital-era intimate connections, I seem to now be regarded as something of an expert. As such, I receive online inquiries about these issues daily. Often, a betrayed partner has just learned about his or her partner’s cheating, and wants to know if he or she is dealing with infidelity or sexual addiction or both, and what the next step should be. Without performing a full assessment, of course, I can’t provide much in the way of specific advice. What I can do is explain the difference between infidelity and addictive sexual behavior, making suggestions as to where effective counseling and support can be found for each of these issues."

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201708/infidelity-vs-addiction-what-is-the-difference
 

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The main navigational tools in life are values and purpose.


All addictions, serve an emotional purpose. Addictions are not just substance abuses (drugs, alcohol), but also behaviors.

The purpose of any addiction is to regain control over intolerably helpless-trapped-powerless feelings, an emotional state. This helplessness is always rooted in something deeply important to the individual. We always have a binary choice. We can regain control of helpless feelings with displaced substitute behaviors (quick fixes or mood changers of drugs or other behaviors), or direct healthy behaviors that empower us. 

Christ Driven Behavior (CDB), is a Direct behavior that honors God, a direct way to regain control over helpless, trapped, powerless feelings! When we surrender to God, He empowers us with a mentor, that imparts motivation, conviction, purpose and the fruits of the Holy Spirit called values. Self-control is one of those fruits or values! When we execute self-control, we act with direct healthy behavior and not with displaced behaviors

Spread the empirical evidence of direct- empowering Christ Driven Behavior (CDB), while discouraging the dissemination of myth, hysteria and hype. Change your thinking and change your life.

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"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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