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In healthy relationships, people can ask for what they need without making other people responsible for their happiness. Relationships feel close without becoming enmeshed. Boundaries are respected without making other people feel guilty.

In codependent relationships, the lines get blurred. One person becomes the caretaker or rescuer, trying to fix or solve someone else’s problems. This begins the cycle of codependency in relationships.

There may be addiction in the mix, but not always. Codependency can happen in any relationship. It’s common in romantic relationships but can also develop with friends and family members, especially between parents and children. In this article, you will learn how to identify a codependent relationship and what it takes to heal this dysfunctional relationship pattern.

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Co-dependence is when your happiness is contingent on another person, in an unhealthy way. It's when your feelings depend on someone else's feelings, hence with dependence.

When situations in life make a co-dependent feel, "Helpless," they try and regain control of the situation by controlling the other person. Sometimes they attempt by pleasing the other person other times by trying to fix the other person's perceived problems. Codependent people think they have to be in charge of everything, they need control. They do this to regain control of their own feelings of helplessness, feeling trapped, powerless and out of control.

The relationship between an addict/alcoholic and the enabler is the most common type of codependent relationship. Trying to get them sober or minimize the addict’s suffering turns into an obsession. The alcoholic becomes the “identified patient”, while the codependent tries to control the alcoholic’s behavior.

Codependents think that the solution is to get the alcoholic sober but getting into codependency recovery is what truly helps codependents end their pattern of enabling, worrying, obsessive, and self-sacrificing.

The best antidote for any hurt, hangup or habit: Is when we choose a high value (Dopaminergic), personal relationship with Jesus Christ, when we replace the rewards of displaced behaviors (addictions) with the rewards of direct Christ Driven Behavior (CDB). Christ Driven Behavior (CDB), is a direct empowering behavior that honors God; a direct way to regain control over helpless, trapped, powerless feelings! When we delegate control to God, He empowers us with a seminal mentor that imparts motivation, conviction, purpose and the  fruits  of the Holy Spirit called valuesSelf-control is one of those fruits or values! When we act with direct healthy behavior and not with displaced-indirect behaviors, we exercise self-control. When we empower ourselves with direct healthy behavior, Christ Driven Behavior, that honors God, there is no displaced behavior, there is no addiction. There is a, “New Creation.”

When our values and purpose are Christ Driven Behaviors (CDB)  that honors God, there is no addiction, there is a new creation, with transformed thinking.

 

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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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