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How Porn is Damaging Relationships

Consuming porn may seem harmless, but the truth is it is hurting relationships.

"Countless couples are trying to figure out how to deal with pornography in their relationship. Some couples report that they use pornography to enhance their sexual relationship. Other couples choose to avoid using pornography completely in their marriage. A third group of couples are discovering that they don't agree about the use of pornography in their relationship or any other time.

Due to the proliferation of pornography via the Internet and other media outlets, countless couples are being forced to respond to pornography. What happens when one partner wants to view pornography independent of the relationship? What does this solo attempt at sexual gratification mean to the relationship? Should it be a threat to a partner? Or should a partner just accept that viewing porn is the norm?"

Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inside-porn-addiction/201408/how-porn-is-damaging-relationships


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"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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Why do people watch porn? Could it be that they find circumstances in their life to be overwhelming, with feelings of being trapped, helpless, powerless and out of control? Adversity and stress are inevitable. When we are confronted with emotional circumstances, very important to us, we often respond with a substitute or displaced behaviors in order to escape the trap and regain control of our issue or circumstance. For example, you get in a fight with your wife or don't have enough money to pay a bill you feel emotionally overwhelmed and trapped. Instead of responding in a direct health manner (communicate calmly with wife, make a plan to pay the bill), you respond be escaping your stress-trap by booting up your computer and watching porn! Viewing porn can be a displaced/substitute behavior that gives the user temporary control, a way out the stress trap! Addictions and compulsive behaviors are all about, "Emotions and Control."
With healthy direct assertive behavior-Christ Driven Behavior, we regain control of our adverse circumstances by giving control to Christ (Romans 12:2) and Christ returns that control to us through the Holy Spirit (John 14:16). When you delegate control of your life to Christ (2 Corinthians 12-9) you will have sufficient  grace to find power in weakness. Then you will have self control, love, peace and joy.....(Galatians 5:22-23). Now we are prepared to communicate with the wife or manage the bills.

This is the Psychotherapy of Jesus Christ, the marriage of science and scripture.

Change your thinking and change your life.

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"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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