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How Porn Affects Us

What kind of site gets more visitors than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined?

Pornography

As access to porn gets easier with the Internet and more people partake, disapproval from Christian groups has intensified as well.

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/open-gently/201606/how-porn-affects-us

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Porn, like any compulsive behavior, always serves an emotional purpose. Compulsive watching of porn is a displaced behavior. A displaced behavior is a behavior used instead of a direct behavior.
With respect to addiction, displaced behaviors are behaviors used to reverse feelings of intolerable helplessness.

Addiction is a displaced behavior, a symptom not a disease, caused by feelings of profound, intolerable helplessness and lack of control. Addiction is a behavior intended to reverse a profound, intolerable sense of helplessness. This displacement (addiction) is an attempt to regain some measure of self-control. Addictive actions are the result of an emotional process – an attempted solution to feeling helplessly overwhelmed. This helplessness is always rooted in something deeply important to the individual. The drive in addictive behavior is rage at the helplessness. It is this particular kind of rage that gives addiction its most conspicuous characteristics of intensity and loss of control. Virtually every addictive act is preceded by a feeling of helplessness or powerlessness. This applies to all hurts, habits and hangups. if you drink compulsively, watch porn, gamble, get angry, or compulsively attempt to control others.  Addictive behavior functions to repair this underlying feeling of helplessness. It is able to do this because taking the addictive action (or even deciding to take this action) creates a sense of being empowered, of regaining control—over one’s emotional experience and one’s life. ( Lance Dodes, MD, calls it discovering your Themes). If addicts can learn to address their rage at helplessness directly, then it manifests simply as an assertive act. When people act directly, there can be no addiction.

Christ is the expert in Behavior Therapy. In fact Christ gave us Helper that will be with us always (John 14:16). Choose direct health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of displaced behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control.

The best way to overcome any hurt habit or hangup is introduce yourself to the character of God thru a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.  If you intelligently delegate control of your life (surrender) to God (2 Cor. 12:9), you will behave with self-control (Gal. 5:22-23), with Christ like thinking  and direct healthy behavior that honors God ( Romans 12:2).

Change your thinking and change your life. Place your identity in Christ and you will regain control with Christ Driven Behaviors that honor God. Synergize your free will with God's will.

 


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"I am a Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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