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Four Signs Your College Student Could Be Abusing Substances

It’s difficult to send your child off to college.

Post published by Constance Scharff Ph.D. on Aug 11, 2015 in Ending Addiction for Good

"It’s difficult to send your child off to college. If they’re not living at home, you no longer have any control over what they do with their days. For young adults, the first time away from parental control can be quite a transition, a change in which sometimes too much partying can play a role in poor academic performance. If you’re a parent who is concerned that your child might become involved with drugs or alcohol, here are some clues you can look for that your child may be on a path to trouble."

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ending-addiction-good/201508/four-signs-your-college-student-could-be-abusing-substances


Ask you child, (Carefrontation) do you drink because your friends do it or because it helps you overcome feelings of overwhelming anxiety, frustration, helplessness and lack of control. You may have to do some drilling here with examples (drink to feel less shy with opposite sex, etc.). When people drink for emotional reasons, to regain control over helpless feelings, there is always the propensity for abuse. Teens learn that they can regain control of anxiety provoking circumstances by escaping with a quick fix or mood changer. Its all about regaining control, escaping the helplessness trap!

Symptom: Chemical abuse is always a symptom of something else that is wrong in our life that results in a substitute behavior.

Cause: Helplessness. Chemical abuse always serves an emotional purpose. Virtually every addictive act is preceded by feelings of helplessness. Addictive behavior is never random; there is always a reason and a reward.

Treatment: Regain control or reverse ones feelings of frustration, helplessness, being trapped and out of control. Here are four ways to regain control with direct healthy behavior: MPPW


  1. Move

  2. Play

  3. Work

  4. Pray


    Even normally sober people can easily be driven to drink because of anxiety. For those of us who are not normally sober, we must work hard to avoid that scenario. So, what should you do when anxiety strikes, as it surely will, and you want to avoid drinking as your relief? Try some of these strategies.  

    •Get moving immediately. Go for a run or walk or take yourself to the gym. Exercise is a great antidote to anxiety and it’s a healthy activity.

    Play: Play with your pet. They will love you for it and that love will in turn soothe your anxiety. If you have a dog, take him to the dog park. The presence of other dogs and dog owners will also help relieve your nerves. A cat’s purring is also an instant soother for the cat and the person doing the petting.

    Work: There is always something that needs doing around the house. Now is the time to fix that wobbly table, repaint the living room or rearrange the furniture in the den. If you have a garden, weeding is always a great stress reducer because, as with all these tasks, you can instantly see the fruits of your labor. This gives personal satisfaction which aids in alleviating anxiety.

    Pray: Read scripture and talk to God. If you have a personal relationship with Christ, He will grow close to you. Remember, friendship is a two way street. God has promised us a helper in regaining control over our helpless trapped feelings. His grace is sufficient for me for there is power in delegating or surrendering control to God. When we give God control he returns that control with the fruits of the Holy Spirit or values such as self-control. Change your thinking and God will change your life.  “All scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.” (2 Timothy 3:16 NLT)

    The point is to take your mind off the cause of the anxiety for at least a while. This will enable you to face it in a far more balanced way than heading straight for the quick fix or mood changer of chemical abuse.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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