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Finding Help as a Sex Addict Is Not So Easy

 

By Brian Whitney on January 2, 2016 in Sex Addiction, Treatment

 

"Admitting that you are a sex addict is not an easy thing to do. There is a lot of shame wrapped up in that statement. It is hard to say aloud even to yourself, let alone to someone else.

 

"When I first sought help, I was embarrassed and afraid to admit my problems, not just to my family and friends, but to counselors and professionals as well. That shame became even worse when I realized that there was no one within a few hundred miles of where I lived who was trained to offer help for my problem."

 

Source: https://www.addiction.com/13897/finding-help-sex-addict-not-easy/

 

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Finding help for any addiction or compulsive behavior is right within us when we are willing to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Christ specializes in teaching Direct behavior in scripture and avoiding Displaced behaviors.
Sexual addiction is just like any other addiction. It is symptom of something else that is wrong in our lives. Addiction is  a behavior used to regain control over helpless feelings. That may sound like a gross oversimplification on the surface,  but not if you really think about it.  "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2

As a male, I've known many sex addicts. While I drank to escape helpless trapped overwhelming feelings, they sought sexual conquests. We both regained control over helpless circumstances, escaped the trap in our lives with our personal eclectic fix or mood changer.

 

Addictive behavior always serves an emotional purpose.

Addiction is a symptom. Addictive behavior serves to regain control over helpless circumstances.

When we feel overwhelmed, helpless, powerless, trapped and out of control, addicts respond with a Displaced quick fix or mood changer of drugs, porn, sex, gambling etc.

We always have a choice. Sometimes we forget that we have a choice or we are on autopilot or we have never understood why we behave the way we do.

We can choose to regain control with Direct healthy behavior, Christ Driven Behavior that honors God.

Displaced behavior regains control on a temporarily basis because the abuser is doing something about it, they are physically acting to alter their emotions and changing how they feel at the moment.

Direct behavior regains control on an intellectual cognitive basis by changing your thinking and regaining control over helpless feelings by giving God control.

When you delegate control to God, you regain control with values that trump feelings; such values are "the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

 

All change ultimately occurs because of decisions (THINKING) people make for themselves. People change with they are HURT enough and HAVE to, or when the LEARN enough and WANT to.

People overcome addiction out of purpose-based motivation -- they quit when they recognize how their habit violates WHO they were, WHAT they want to be, WHERE they want to go in life.

A person's purpose and values are the main navigational tools in recovery from any hurt, habit or hang-up.

 

There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup. It's the God Partnership, the Direct Christ Driven Behavior that regains control over helplessness.

Change your thinking and change your life. Get your values from the Bible, not from how you want to feel.


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"I am a Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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