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Dear Future Husband, I Was Addicted to Porn


"An honest and open letter to her future husband. It’s crazy how a fathers actions so greatly affected his daughter and for so long."

Dear Future Husband,

"This is going to be hard for me to explain, so I’ll just go for it."

"When I was about 10 years old, I went into my dad’s office.  I knew that I wasn’t supposed to be in there, but a lot of fun things were in that room.  It was storage for our Christmas things, it was a darkroom for my dad’s photography hobby, and it was the room with a television hooked up to a satellite.  At the time, and in Appalachia, that was a really big deal.  I remember really enjoying watching The Mickey Mouse Club with Britney Spears, Justin Timberlake, and Christina Aguilera."

"However, this day I walked in that is not what was on the television."


Source: http://www.faithit.com/dear-future-husband-i-was-addicted-to-porn/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=faithit_newsletter&utm_content=FaithIt+3/25/2015

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Porn like chemical abuse or any compulsive habit that becomes an addiction always serves an emotional purpose.
Compulsive behavior always has a reason.

Addictions are just compulsions. Some addictions even have the word “compulsive” in their names, like “compulsive gambling.” “Compulsions,” as a diagnostic group, are basically identical to addictions.

Addictions are efforts to deal with the most important emotional issues of our life, it is impossible to understand them without understanding yourself as a person. Likewise, it is extremely useful to explore the emotional factors that precipitate addictive behavior; understanding these factors provides a shortcut, to understanding yourself.

Watching porn is a symptom. The cause is feeling helpless, trapped and out of control to specific issues in your life that are extremely important to you. The treatment is to regain control or escape the trap. How does a person regain control? Behavioral science tells us one of two ways:
1. Displaced behavior of porn or any other addiction. (Yes the addiction is a way of speciously regaining control of your issue).
2. Direct Healthy behavior or Christ Driven Behavior (CDB). CDB teaches us values, gives us motivation and allows purpose in our lives. When we act with CDB, there is no addiction, there is only victory.

People change when they are, "Motivated," to change and they choose to change. The Bible is the book that contains this template for purpose based motivation, mindfulness, character, values and tenets for life. (Sermon on the Mount-The Eight Beatitudes). Empower yourself and choose to allow the philosophical values and principles of Jesus Christ to TRANSFORM your thinking and change the very essence of your life-forever. 

Focus on the process... don't worry about the outcome. Plant, water, weed, nurture. Fruit will come. When you have a relationship with Jesus Christ, you believe, you make an intelligent decision and delegate control (surrender) to Christ (2 Corinthians 12:9-10). Christ returns that control with a Helper (John 14:16) and self-control and other fruits of your behavior follow! (Galatians 5:22-23).

Change your thinking and embrace your victories.


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"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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