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"Do you struggle to control your anger? Are you the victim of someone who loses their temper? When you feel angry, controlling that rage is very difficult--but it's possible."

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Anger like all hurts, habits and hangup, has it origin in loss of emotional control. It may reveal more about your anger than you realize helping you determine if your anger is reaching a destructive level in your life. It may also be the beginning of the healing that you’re looking for! What is the cause of anger? Every act of anger is preceded by a feeling of helplessness or powerlessness (an overwhelming of the capacity to manage without feeling emotionally flooded). In a nutshell, when you are emotionally upset because of something profoundly important to you has been affected. You feel trapped, powerless, helpless and emotionally out of control with respect to the incident. You then attempt to reverse or regain personal control with a displaced compulsive behavior known as anger. The drive in displaced behavior is rage at helplessness. It is this particular kind of rage-anger that gives anger its most conspicuous characteristics of intensity and loss of control.
Compulsive anger is an addiction. Addictions simply displaced behaviors that are symptoms. We all have symptoms. No one is perfect. Addictions are all about emotions and control. Addictions are behaviors used to reverse feelings of helplessness. Addictions always serve an emotional purpose. Addictive behavior is always preceded by feelings of helplessness, feeling trapped, feeling powerless, feeling out of control. Anger is no less different.

When we lose our temper it is a behavior intended to regain control of a circumstance that is very important to us. The antidote is to regain control over helpless circumstances with healthy, assertive behavior not a quick fix or mood changer of drugs or anger. The antidote is to get your feelings and thinking from the Bible. Regain control with direct healthy assertive Christ driven behavior that reverses feelings of helplessness and empowers with new thinking (Romans 12:2), new values including self-control (Gal. 5:22-23).
Realistically, the Bible is not the only place to find new thinking, purpose and values, however, if we get our purpose, values and thinking from the Bible (the best source), direct healthy behavior is inevitable. Where there is Christ Driven Behavior (Direct) there is no addiction! This isn't wishful thinking or blind faith, this is behavioral science and scripture as taught by Jesus Christ over 2000 years ago.

Change your thinking and change your life.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."

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You can be as angry as you want as long as you have self control. So when you're angry, take a breather and don't scream or yell, hit, or throw a tantrum. Just sit and wait out the anger. Breathe it out and let it go. 

If you need to yell and have a fit to release your anger, every time you get angry, that's no good. It's not helpful in the long run. Anger is a natural emotion we all feel, it's how you control your actions and behavior while angry that makes a difference.

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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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