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Do you always get what you want? Is life easy, fair and painless for you?

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Hello CCR peeps, new here, there is much here to read, I am looking forward to learning more.  Thank You Admin for your effort, I hope this fellowship grows and more people share there Experience, Strength and Hope.  

I found your article very new in information. This particular part stuck out to me. ..... 

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The Real Function or Purpose of Addictive Behavior:

Forget everything you have learned about the so called disease of addiction. Then, and only then, can you begin to understand the hidden simplicity behind this complex behavior.  In a nutshell, addictive behavior is used to reverse feelings of overwhelming, intolerable helplessness. Addictive behavior occurs, when specific circumstances in life, that are always very important to us, result in our feeling emotionally overwhelmed, helpless, trapped, powerless and out of control. Instead of a direct behavior, used to regain control, some folks attempt to regain control of their circumstance with a displaced or substitute behavior of mood altering drugs or other types of behavior (porn, gambling, anger, controlling others, etc.).  Addictive behavior works because getting drunk, taking the drug and other behaviors, temporarily removes the trapped feeling because the abuser is doing something about it, they are in effect, "regaining control of their emotions or how they feel." This feeling of escaping the trap of helpless-powerless feelings, is empowering and returns a sense of control!  Human behavior is always seeking control. If you are walking and start to trip and fall your priority is to regain control of your balance. So it is with addictive behavior, it's all about regaining control.  When people feel they're back in control of their lives with specific behaviors, the behavior becomes a compelled activity.
A better example is road rage, a careless driver swerves into your lane causing you to maneuver your car out of his path in order to keep from hitting your car. At the moment you are helpless and powerless (you can't control him). You could flip him off, scream expletives or pull off the highway and go to a bar, where you can drink and vent. These types of displaced behaviors will help you regain control of your feelings at least for the moment, because you are empowering yourself and doing something about it! Alternatively, you could do something more direct and healthy, take down his license plate and call it in to the police, take a deep breath and consider how lucky you are not to drive like him, consider the possibility that the driver might be physically handicapped, or racing to the hospital, turn on some mood changing music, thank God you are okay, etc. Once again, you are empowering yourself and regaining control, but in the latter scenario, in a more direct 
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I have battled my appetite for years, loosing and regaining the same 30-40 lbs over and over again. I am not huge, but i have done a lot to not pass 180, it use to be 170, but I been loosing the battle. I feel good at 145, energy to do things, feel healthy, brighter emotions, enjoy bending over and buying clothes I like. At 180, where I'm at again today, I am miserable. Tired all the time, no energy, unintentionally ignore my loved ones, Don't participate in life unless I just have too,  and hate myself for being so selfish/Lazy. I am not my best me and it depresses me. 

Of course I have the typical story, I had some traumatic childhood experience, rebelled in younger years as many do, but I don't think that's my problem. Of course I know about my physical triggers, carbs make me crave/loose control. I have learned a lot about myself from the years of dieting, yo-yo-ing. Self-help books and prescription diet pills, Christian programs and secular. 

I am not sure how I feel about your statement about it boils down to feeling helpless and wanting to be in control. ...I do feel helpless to overcome over eating (been praying/pleading/arguing with God for years about it).

I know that many times when I binge I am tired or no motivation and I'm looking for energy (to know avail). Or I am trying to figure out something, solve or find something in my mind and there is a stress (sometimes a stress I enjoy, like figuring out something, finding a puzzle piece, I'm antsy sorta)  that stress/anxiety causes me to want to numb it I think. I'm pretty even keel/mellow personality type 97% of the time. 

Hmm.. maybe i don't want to rock the boat, so to speak, in my inner man. It's uncomfortable/scary.... I want to be back in control, like a pendulum?? Well at these times I need to let God be in control! I need to allow Him to be my comfort. I know my first thought is always "it will take to long" my drug of choice will numb whatever faster without all the work of faith. ...I have tried to find good alternatives, but of course a piece of bread sounds better than music, good book, ect.

blah blah blah, lol. Thinking out loud here, no reply is necessary. I enjoyed this article and I will read it again and think more on it. 

CCR Newbie,
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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