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Abuse Victims – The Problem
We have experienced some form of abuse, which has damaged our emotions and identity in ways that continue to affect us. We have developed incorrect ideas about life and destructive ways of dealing with the pain. This is harmful to us emotionally and physically, and damages our relationships with others. We need healing from the traumas done to us. We also need healing from the influence these experiences continue to have in our present lives.

The Solution
Celebrate Recovery is a form of Cognitive behavior therapy (Holy Spirit) that is based on the idea that feelings and behaviors are caused by a person's thoughts, not on outside stimuli like people, situations and events. People may not be able to change their circumstances, but they can change how they think about them (HP of Holy Spirit) and therefore change how they feel and behave. Think about this premise. If your thinking is based on the Holy Spirit then how you feel will change your behavior and your actions. You will have a new Purpose in life. All change ultimately occurs because of decisions (THINKING) people make for themselves. The most powerful techniques for bringing about change, therefore, allow people to follow their own VALUES and preferences. When do people change? When they want to. When MOTIVATED to do so. Change your thinking and let God change your life.

By actually working through the Christ-centered 12 Steps and 8 Recovery Principles with Jesus Christ as our Higher Power, we can and will change. We experience the true peace and serenity we have been seeking when we admit we are powerless to heal ourselves from the effects of abuse and give our lives and our wills over to the care of God. It is only when we become dependent on God for our happiness, believing that His plan for us includes victory over the abuse, that we stop living and reliving the past and experience complete and lasting emotional healing.

Here we learn a new way of living. We recognize that the persons who abused us are responsible for their abusive acts and we reject the guilt and shame resulting from those acts. We look to God and His Word to find our identity and standards for living. We honestly share our feelings with God and others to help us identify those areas that need cleansing and healing. We accept responsibility for our responses to the abuse. We rely on God as we go through the process of forgiving ourselves and our perpetrators. This enables us to establish and fully participate in healthy relationships and share this life-changing message with others. Those of us who have experienced life change through this program encourage you to keep coming back. It works, by God’s power, if you work it.


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"I am a Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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I am a homeless Vietnam Vet (a Christian neighbor has put me up) who was being divorced by OCPD wife of 17 years. She listened to a phone conversation with a friend when i was teling him that a VA mental health worker told me that OCPD people are crazy. She went off and filed for divorce. Anger is a major part of OCPD. She also let her son who is delusional move in 8 years ago. He had just got out off Hospital on a civil commitment. No where to go but my house. Put a bullet hole in wall shoting the devil when he came out from under his bed. He is a narcistic as well and has beat me down a lot. He has grandiose delusions as will so he is a no it all from hell. The Newtown  Conneticut  shooting put me in the VA Hosital mental ward under suiside watch. Families can't do anything with these people. My grand son and I both armed ourselve in my house. Even runs down my service in the Marines. I'm rated 70% PTSD with VA. I was in vietnam sept '67 Oct '68. Tet, Khe Sahn as a helicopter mechanic and machine gunner. He likes to tell me "you din't do s--t.  She with her temper tantums and control freak ways abusesme as well and calls me worse names than I heard in USMC bott camp. I started smoking weed daily for 10-15 years. I had not drank for 35 years but started up 5 years ago. After being remove from home (restraining order) i became clean and sober within 2 months.I also got into smut because I had been cut off for not living up to her rules. Thts the hard part now I have relapsed a couple of times and feel like hell. I confess but still feel bad. I dont like what ive done. VA social worker said i was doing so well (clesn and sober, lose 25lbs) she could only say that I should not look in the rear view mirror or I would go off road and into the canyon. Told her the books i was reading. How to win friend and influance people and Worry by Dale Carnige, Battle plan for prayer and Bible. 12 step program is the only thing she could see that I was in need of. I went to the first night at CR and broke down in tears. I cryed a couple more times reading Baker's program book. I am to start program 7th Jan. Don't know whitch disipline to take first. I think I love my wife I don't know. I know God hates divorce so Im not going to press it.She Is so mad I don't think she will go along with CR. I bought her CR Bible, plan book and divotional. Droped off rang bell and left. Along with alimony check. No responce. Please pray for us and any advice would be wonderful. Having a hard time waiting for CR THursday night.God Bless Jon     PS my exwife was delusional and I was a single parent because of mental ilness. Pepole we stealing her thoughts.
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"Please pray for us and any advice would be wonderful. Having a hard time waiting for CR THursday night."


Hi Jon,

Prayers are with you. With respect to the wife and others, concentrate on taking car of your side of the street. CR can change your thinking and better your life. Talk to the pastor at your specific CR. Our CR is here http://www.CRRHCC.COM


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"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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