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9 Ways to Tell If You're a Codependent

"Codependency is a relationship issue that wreaks havoc in many relationships and is more prevalent than most people are aware of. The term is defined as an unhealthy attachment to another person and has various characteristics."

You may be a codependent and not even realize it. Or, you may see the signs but feel powerless to change. If you and your relationship are experiencing some difficulties, it’s a good idea to see if you are struggling with codependency."

Here are 9 characteristics often linked to codependent behavior.

1. Neediness

If you or your partner is excessively needy, you may be in trouble. Neediness and clinginess tends to cause drama in a relationship. Seeking happiness from your partner will only end up sucking his or her energy dry and keep you feeling lousy.

Read more: http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/9-ways-to-tell-if-youre-a-codependent/


Codependency like any other hurt, habit or hangup is a symptom. When circumstances in life that are very important to the individual become emotionally overwhelming, the person feels helpless, trapped, powerless and lacking control. The codependent attempts to regain control by controlling others (Displaced Behavior).

The treatment as always is to give God control! "My grace is sufficient for you, there is power in weakness (2 Cor. 12:9-10). While that is easier said than done, given the cognitive dissonance of the situation, it is feasible when you have a personal relationship with Christ, because when you grow close to God, He will grow close to you (James 4:8). When we regain control of helpless situations with Direct Behavior, we conduct our actions with Christ Driven values. "And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever (John 14:16). When a person is genuinely willing to Surrender their life to Christ, Christ returns that control! Giving control to God does not make us mindless puppets. We always have choice and free will. Surrendering control to Christ is simply deciding to make an intelligent decision to delegate control to Christ. You are in effect making Christ the Chief Operations Officer in your life. You remain the Chief Executive Officer with the final decision and choice. Ultimately , with obedience, Christ gives us the computer code (Romans 12:2) but we must execute the program! It's a reciprocal relationship, it’s a learned relationship, but the end game is the values of the Holy Spirit which include self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23).

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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