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"With the addiction epidemic on the rise, many husbands and wives are finding themselves with significant others who have addictions. Some of them may have had clues that their spouses had ongoing addiction issues and were determined to help them recover. Others may have spouses whose addictions developed during marriage. Nonetheless, these situations lure the non-addicted spouses to a special kind of opiate—an overbearing amount of hope.

In codependency, we believe we are responsible for our spouse's emotions and well-being. But in reality, the only person you are ever responsible for is yourself. As you shift from an enabling role to a supporting one, it is possible that you may feel false guilt and confused. Don’t hesitate to seek help as you sift through these complex feelings."

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The function (purpose) of addiction is to reverse a sense of helplessness. Addictions always serve an emotional purpose.  Addiction is a behavior used to regain control over an emotional state. Addictions never occur randomly. There is always a reason and always a reward.

True addiction, versus simple physical dependence, is neither more nor less than an emotional solution to manage feelings of intolerable helplessness. When people feel utterly trapped,  they have to do something,  when they feel they can't act directly to get out of that trap, then they have to do something else! That something else,  is therefore a substitute action, technically called a displacement.  For example, getting drunk is a displaced behavior which functions as quick fix or mood changer that at least temporarily serves to escape the trap because the abuser it doing something to empower themselves! When people repetitively perform a displaced action trying to manage overwhelming feeling of helplessness, we call this driven compulsive behavior an  addiction. This is exactly what chemical abusers do they when they take a substitute quick fix or mood changer of drugs and alcohol escape the trap of helplessness. Compulsive gambling, porn, anger all serve the same emotional purpose. All hurts, habits and hang-ups serve an emotional purpose.

But there's always something people can do at these overwhelming moments that is more direct! ( even if not perfect).

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"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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