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3 Mistakes Parents Make with Technology

"Can you believe that there was a time when people didn’t spend hours of their day staring into glowing screens? Phones never left the house, television put itself to sleep at night, and computers were just fancy typewriters. Technology didn’t come with you to the playground, school or on a family vacation."

"Everywhere you look, children are staring into cell phones screens, computer screens, tablets, ipads, etc. Probably by the time you finish reading this article, someone will have invented a new glowing screen for kids to stare into."

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/when-kids-call-the-shots/201604/3-mistakes-parents-make-technology


How do you know if you or your kids are addicted to technology?

To answer that question you have to determine the cause of a person's compulsion and obsession with the glowing screen.

"Some kids don’t fuss over technology. These kids tend to lead full lives filled with hobbies and numerous activities such as school clubs, social events, sports teams, band or music practice. To them, technology is just another pastime. For other kids, technology devours their lives. They can’t put down or turn it off. These kids tend to be more isolated and anxious, have poor people skills, difficulty maintaining friendships or an unstable sense of self. For them, technology is just another way to avoid a frustrating world; a world that they have difficulty handling. By placing a glowing screen in front of their face, they can shut out contact and communication. Sadly, the more connected they feel to technology, the less connected they feel to the people around them."

The bottom line with any compulsive behavior is the question: does it serve an emotional purpose? Do you seek technology in an effort to escape circumstances in life that make you FEEL helpless, trapped, powerless and out of control? Life is never always fair, easy and painless regardless of age. Each of us are different but when circumstances in life make us feel helpless, we often attempt reverse the helpless feelings with a compulsive behavior. This could be a computer, alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling and even a compulsion to keep your desktop clean.

The other day I was out to lunch with a group of friends I did not know very well. As people chatted I had an overwhelming feeling to pull out my cell phone and use it. The cause of my anxiety was that I felt socially helpless, trapped and lacking control with respect to participating in the conversation. My social anxiety kicked in and I was going to regain control of my feelings by deciding to use my cell phone which I am very comfortable using. I could check my email, messages or surf the net while maintaining that something important on my phone was necessitating my use of the phone.  I wanted to regain control of how I felt by empowering myself with something that would make me FEEL better or more comfortable doing.

I chose not to use my cell phone which would have been a substitute or displaced behavior used to regain control of my feelings.  Instead I reversed my helpless feelings as I chose a direct, healthy assertive behavior and forced myself to join the conversation.
This is how compulsive behaviors or addictions function. Addictions always serve an emotional purpose and the addictive behavior is always preceded by feelings of helplessness. Once this concept is understood and accepted, it much easier to regain control of how you feel, with healthy thinking and behavior. Jesus Christ has been teaching this type of behavior for over 2000 years. When you give God control, that control is returned to you with new transformed thinking and fruits of the Holy Spirit called values! Self control is one of those values, when you think and act with behavior that honors God. Where there is Christ Driven Behavior, there is only direct, assertive, healthy behavior; there is no substitute behavior, and hence no addiction.

Change your thinking and let God change your life. Synergize your free will with God's will.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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