Where Science Meets the Steps
The new science of addiction
by David Sack, M.D.
10 Ways to Turn Off Worry
"Try these helpful techniques the next time you're feeling worrisome
Worrying can feel like a way to cover our bases, to find answers, to be responsible, or to keep that plane in the air. In reality, it’s wasted energy. If something bad does happen, worry didn’t stop it. If it doesn’t happen, worry only sucked any joy from the moment."
Even when we realize that our worries are pointless and quite often irrational, it’s not easy to turn them off. But it’s important that we try. Worry can release stresshormones that trigger health issues, such as digestive and cardiac disorders, and can lead to depression. It can also be a trigger for substance abuse. After all, drinks and pills seem to promise a quick way to blot worry from our minds, at least for the moment. The next time you feel that sickening knot building inside you, try these strategies for flipping the worry switch to “off.”
1. Live in the now.
2. Don’t try to brace yourself for the bad stuff.
3. Give yourself permission not to worry.
4. Give yourself permission to worry.
5. Think positive.
6. Be aware of distorted thinking.
7. Analyze your worry history.
8. Let go of control.
9. Embrace imperfection
10. Let it out.
Read More: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201412/10-ways-turn-worry
# 8 Let go of control.
All compulsive behavior (addictions) have at their core the variable of, "control."
All addictive behavior (hurts, habits and hangups) is a displaced response in order to regain control over emotional feelings of helplessness.
"My grace is sufficient for you, for there is power in weakness." 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
For me, this is a life changing scripture. When the apostle Paul wrote about his circumstance, he was referencing a thorn in his life that he not only accepted but he used the thorn to change his thinking. This verse embraces the act of Surrender, once considered a weakness, until I met Christ. The Greek word for meek, praus, was used to refer to domesticated animals. The word does not refer to a wild, unruly animal; it refers to a strong and powerful horse or an ox that was trained and disciplined so that it could be controlled by a human.
The word meek used in Matthew 5:5 refers to a strong person who is under control--a God controlled person.
A meek person is a man or woman of God whose strength is controlled by God. He or she is controlled by God in thought, word, will, emotion, and action. The meek man is one who submits, not to his own will or to the will of the world, but to the great and gracious will of God. A meek man is not a weak man. He is not wishy-washy, effeminate or timid. He is not someone who you can walk all over. A meek man is not passive and spineless. In fact the meek man is just the opposite. The one who has put their faith and their trust in Jesus Christ will be meek before God, but mighty and bold before the world and before Satan. To the sinful world and to Satan the meek person will be far stronger than they are.
Adversity is part of life. Life is full of helpless situations and circumstances beyond human control.
The wise person knows this, accepts this and intellectually delegates, control to Christ. Is this a weakness? No, it is an intellectual strength, if we are strong enough to allow it. Ask any successful business person, delegation is essential and necessary. Delegate control to your new Chief Operations Officer (COO) Jesus Christ, and Christ will reciprocate control to you the Chief Operation Officer (CEO) through the values of the Holy Spirit, the fruits of the Helper.
When we give Christ 100% control of our lives (Surrender), Christ returns that control to us through the Holy Spirit. (John 14:16). It is then that we can act and behave with the fruits of the Holy Spirit, not the least of which is self-control. Galatians 5:22-23.
Addictive behavior and all hurts, habits and hangups are symptoms of something else that is wrong. When humans are faced with helpless situation, that we consider extremely important, we feel emotionally trapped, powerless and overwhelmed. We lose control and often react with displaced compulsive addictive behavior instead of healthy direct behavior. Our displaced behavior could results in drinking, drugs, porn, anger, you name it. The bottom line is that all humans try and regain control of our emotional helpless, trapped feelings. Addictions are actually a substitute or displaced behavior intended to regain control of the way we feel! Addicts choose, to regain control through their compulsive behavior. Getting angry is a simple example. When you get angry at someone or something, including yourself, you lose your temper or swear or possibly hit something or someone. Ironically this is a method of regaining control, albeit a displaced one. Drinking or drugging is another example. Chemical abusers, abuse in order to regain control over circumstances in life that they find emotionally overwhelming. Finding these causative themes in our lives, understanding and dealing with them with direct healthy behaviors and not displaced behavior, is the key to recovery.
Both Science and Christ teach us that direct healthy behavior is possible in the face of stressful, helpless, trapped, situations. Give Christ control, choose and cultivate direct healthy behaviors, Christ Driven behaviors based on the values and principles of Jesus Christ. You have a choice. You are not powerless! You may be powerless over what you can control or your tendency to do the wrong thing, but you are not powerless to make good decisions. People change when they hurt enough and have to or when they learn enough and want to. Surrendering to Christ will give you the motivation, purpose and will to change. Empower yourself and change your thinking and change your life. Romans 12:2.