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10 Quick-Fire Questions to Ask Yourself If You Think You’re an Alcoholic

The vast majority of drinkers seem to be able to handle alcohol in moderation with no problem. There are folks who manage to have a drink or two with dinner, enjoy the social lubricating and relaxing effects of alcohol, and always seem to know when "enough is enough." But there are others among us who know that even one drink will put them on the brink of complete relapse and quickly have them battling to survive a whirlwind of persistent health problems, ruined relationships and shattered careers.

But what if you don't fit either of those profiles? You're neither yin nor yang—or so you believe. You drink a little now and then (maybe if you're honest with yourself, it's actually more "now" and "then"), but you rationalize to yourself that you always hold your liquor, never get drunk and function quite well with a drink in your hand. Is it really possible that you're an alcoholic and you don't even know it? 

One way to find out is ask to yourself the following ten quick yes-or-no questions:

Read more: http://www.soberrecovery.com/addiction/10-quick-fire-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-you-think-you-re-an-alcoholic/




There is really only one question you need to ask yourself. Does my drinking serve an emotional purpose? In other words, do you drink to change the way you want to feel when confronted with helpless out of control circumstances? To answer this question, necessitates a sincere measure of introspection. 

Simply put, chemical abuse is a behavior used to regain control over helpless feelings. I'm not referencing physiological dependence, but the emotional feelings behind compulsively wanting to drink.  

The common denominator behind all chemical abusers is how they react to intolerable feelings of adversity or helplessness. When circumstances in a chemical abusers life, make them feel intolerably helpless, trapped or powerless, they feel a loss of control. The abuser always attempts to regain control of their emotions, escape the trap, with a quick fix or mood changer of chemicals. This is called a Displaced behavior.  When we lack control of our circumstances or issues, its human behavior to try and regain control, as soon as possible. This concept may not make sense to an nondrinker but the reality is for the chemical abuser they feel more in control of their feelings (how they want to feel) when they drink than when they don't drink!  For example, getting drunk is a displaced behavior which functions as quick fix or mood changer that at least temporarily serves to escape the trap because the abuser it doing something to empower themselves! When people repetitively perform a displaced action trying to manage overwhelming feeling of helplessness, we call this driven compulsive behavior an  addiction. This is exactly what chemical abusers do they when they take a substitute quick fix or mood changer of drugs and alcohol escape the trap of helplessness. Compulsive gambling, porn, anger all serve the same emotional purpose. All hurts, habits and hang-ups serve an emotional purpose.

But there's always something people can do at these overwhelming moments that is more direct! ( even if not perfect).

People find that when they take direct healthy action, the  addictive urge almost always vanishes!  This sounds like magic but it makes sense because having acted more directly, they no longer need a substitute behavior. This direct healthy action could be simply facing your helpless circumstances, talking to a person or channeling your actions into a less destructive manner. Humans always attempt to regain control when they feel helpless and trapped! Exercise, reading a book or doing something fun, (besides drugs),  can change the mood and regain control.

This is where Christ driven behavior is  a direct healthy behavior. Always ask does my behavior honor God? Does my behavior emulate the template that Jesus Christ left us? When we decide to choose the values and principles espoused by Jesus Christ, we find motivation, values such as self-control (Gal. 5:22-23)  and purpose. Christ Driven Behavior is empowering direct behavior, that comes with a built in mentor (John 14:16) the standard of perfection as established by God,  evidenced by Jesus Christ.


Change your thinking and let God change your life.

"I am a Surrendered Believer in Jesus Christ with Free Will and I CHOSE Surrender (Intelligent Delegation) in my victory over, “Recreational Chemical Abuse, my weekend, "False Idols."
"I chose DIRECT health assertive Christ Driven Behavior (CDB) instead of DISPLACED behavior in order to regain control over feeling helpless, powerless, trapped and lacking control. I changed my, "Thinking," and God changed my life."
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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.


With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.


Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.

Change your thinking, change your life!

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