Celebrate Christ Recovery is dedicated to the idea that a person's values and purpose are the main navigational tools in life.
People overcome hurts, habits and hang-ups out of purpose-based motivation -- they better themselves when they recognize how their habits, violate who they were, what they want to be, where they want to go in life.
All change ultimately occurs because of decisions (Thinking) people make for themselves. People change when they HURT enough and have to or when they LEARN enough and want to. People change when they are, "Motivated," to change and they choose to change.
The Bible is the book that contains this template for purpose based motivation, mindfulness, character, values and tenets for life. (Sermon on the Mount-The Eight Beatitudes).
Empower yourself and choose to allow the philosophical values and principles of Jesus Christ to TRANSFORM your thinking and change the very essence of your life-forever.
Celebrate Christ Recovery, is based on the premise that feelings and behaviors are caused by a person's thoughts, not on outside stimuli like people, situations and events. People may not be able to control their external circumstances, but they can change how they think about them and therefore change how they feel and behave (Romans 12:2). There are three things you can own and control: Feelings, Attitudes (Thinking)and Behaviors. No other person can control those. The way you feel emanates from how you think. Behind everything you do is a thought. Every behavior is motivated by a belief. Every action is prompted by an attitude. Pay attention to how you THINK, for everything you do flows from the heart. Proverbs 4:20-23.
This is an online forum about, “Thinking with Christ and applying it to your daily life.” This is a unique forum that involves the, "Marriage of Science and Scripture." This is place for anyone who doesn’t live or have a perfect life, it's simply for everyone.
Don't be misled by the word, "Recovery." America has created two neologisms—"recovery" and "sobriety"—both of which are taken to mean abstinence. Neither term is accurate. Sobriety is not abstinence: the word literally means not being intoxicated or, in its broad sense, taking a serious approach to life. Recovery does not necessarily mean avoiding a substance forever. It means regaining a foothold in life by finding purpose and meaning. Recovery refers to a return of a normal God oriented healthy state of mind, body and spirit. Living life from the perspective of, "Exercise some of the time, Eat healthy most of the time, Think well by pursuing God ALL of the time." Sobriety is where, "Values trump feelings," (the need for a quick fix or mood changer). Sobriety lasts when we have, "Purpose," when we are not conformed to this world, but transformed with new thinking (Romans 12:2). Sobriety occurs when we get our values from the Bible and not from how we, "Feel." Life is fraught with overwhelming and uncontrollable-helpless situations and events that cause stress. Recovery refers to the action or process of regaining possession or control of your life, by how you think. How you think determines how you feel. How you feel influences your actions, your behavior, your compulsions.
When we have a relationship with Jesus Christ we learn Building and Maintaining Motivation, Coping with Urges, Managing Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors, Living a Balanced Life. When we retrain our brain with direct Christ Driven Behavior, (CDB) we learn to change our thinking (neural engrams), our motivation, our values and purpose and that changes our character and our lives (Romans 12:2). We don't react with displaced compulsive behavior but instead react with healthy direct behavior, that is Christ Driven Behavior based on a personal relationship that empowers us with the values and virtues of Jesus Christ. When we practice these values, we find motivation and purpose, joy and competence.
Most addiction experts perceive that Science and Scripture are antithetical; this is a misconception. We need scientific explanation to understand nature. We need meaning to understand human behavior. We need God to know the answers to both. Jesus Christ taught His basic psychotherapy over 2000 years ago. He authored by proxy, 66 books on it. Read the Bible to be wise, believe it to be saved and practice it to be holy and healthy.
Consider this forum as an adjunct tool, to face to face Celebrate Recovery Meetings. Consider putting the, "values," of Jesus Christ into habit- the best definition of, "Character".
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CHRIST RECOVERY - CELEBRATE RECOVERY
Welcome to Christ Recovery. Christ Recovery is dedicated to the idea that a person's purpose and values are the main navigational tools in recovery from any hurt, habit or hang-up. The Bible, specifically the Sermon on the Mount, contains the template for purpose and values on planet earth. There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot become a better person. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than the issue. This is a forum for members of any Celebrate Recovery group to meet, share, and talk. This is not a replacement for Celebrate Recovery face to face meetings. Think of this forum as an adjunct tool to normal meetings. Think of this forum as an online, "Solid Rock Café."
This Main Forum is simply a place for introduction, explanation and general discussion and not specific issues.I hope that you will find this forum a safe place, a place for everyone, a place for all issues, a place to receive support, a place to experience God's love, a place where you are loved and accepted, a place to heal from any hurts, habits and hangups. You are as, "Anonymous," here as you want to be. The, "Choice," as always, is yours.
Chemical Dependency or Abuse
Chemical dependency refers to alcohol, drug or prescription medication abuse. If you find you cannot quit drinking or using entirely, or if you have little control over the amount you consume, if you experience, feelings of intolerable helplessness, trapped, powerless with a lack of control, with respect to specific occurrences in your life, if you attempt to regain control with chemical abuse, you probably struggle with a displaced behavior called chemical addiction. If that is the case, you may be suffering from a problem which might best be addressed with a spiritual solution of both science and scripture. A solution that will change your thinking and thereby change your life! Sobriety in itself is not a way of life. It is simply the absence of intoxication. It is what one does with their sobriety and their life that is important (Godbriety). The greatest evil of addiction is that it separates the addict from God (Psalms 4:2). All change ultimately occurs because of decisions (THINKING) people make for themselves.People change with they are HURT ENOUGH and HAVE TO, or when the LEARN ENOUGH AND WANT TO. Perfection is not required, but progress is possible, when you allow Christ to change your thinking. Romans 12:2
Anger is not a primary emotion, but a reaction to something deeper. When most of us think of an “angry” person, we think of someone who destroys themselves and their relationships through uncontrollable outbursts of rage. We usually picture someone who goes around slamming doors, yelling loudly, and making life miserable for everyone, including themselves. Yet, this is only one part of anger, as anger has many faces. Equally as damaging and destructive is anger that is suppressed, or “stuffed.” All anger, if allowed to, will continue to destructively influence our behaviors and attitudes, and will ultimately erupt from deep within the heart. Anger like all hurts, habits and hangup, has it origin in loss of emotional control. It may reveal more about your anger than you realize helping you determine if your anger is reaching a destructive level in your life. It may also be the beginning of the healing that you’re looking for! What is the cause of anger? Every act of anger is preceded by a feeling of helplessness or powerlessness (an overwhelming of the capacity to manage without feeling emotionally flooded). In a nutshell, when you are emotionally upset because of something profoundly important to you has been affected. You feel trapped, powerless, helpless and emotionally out of control with respect to the incident. You then attempt to reverse or regain personal control with a displaced compulsive behavior known as anger. The drive in displaced behavior is rage at helplessness. It is this particular kind of rage-anger that gives anger its most conspicuous characteristics of intensity and loss of control.
Codependency is about managing FEELINGS, yours and others. A codependent is dependent on another person for their well-being. Codependency is, essentially, an addiction to another person; the compulsive need to control that part of their life that is out-of-control. Codependency is hard to define, but it involves actively seeking to control or manipulate others, give unsolicited advice, rescue needy people, or base our self-concept on the well-being or approval of others. It’s a life-controlling issue because we allow the behavior of another person to effect our behavior, so that we become consumed with that person and their problems. This obsession with the issues and problems of others, becomes debilitating to us as we exhaust inordinate and inappropriate amounts of mental and emotional energy over them, leaving little, if any, energy for ourselves.
Love & Relationship Addiction
This group provides a safe place to deal with the depression, isolation, lack of trust, and the unhealthy use of love and relationships as means of achieving worth, that are characteristic of Romance and Relationship Addictions. Addiction is a displaced behavior intended to reverse a profound, intolerable sense of helplessness. This helplessness is always rooted in something deeply important to the individual. Come find out what is genuinely important to you.
Sex & Porn Addiction for Men
Our lust began as an overpowering desire for pleasurable relief from an inner pain, emptiness or insecurity that we were not able to cope with in any other way. (We felt helpless, trapped, lacking control). At first, our displaced behavior did provide the relief we sought (attempt to regain control). For a time, sex with ourselves or with others dissolved the tension, relieved the depression, resolved the conflict, and provided the means to deal with, control, or escape from life’s seemingly unbearable situations.
Eventually, our quest for relief became an addiction (displaced behavior), and the addiction took on a life of its own. Pleasure and relief were gradually replaced with tension, depression, rage, guilt, and even physical distress. To relieve this new pain, we resorted to more sex and lust, displacing control in the process. We were driven to spend more time thinking about and carrying out our addiction. We lived in denial to avoid recognizing just how much of our life was controlled by our addiction.
Finally, our addiction took priority over everything: our ability to work, live in the real world, relate with others and be close to God. What began as the cure had become the sickness. The Answer had become the Problem. We were hopelessly addicted to lust.
Sex & Porn Addiction for Women
As women, sexual addiction is unique. Our behavior ranged from sex with self, phone sex, cyber sex, and pornography. We engaged in promiscuity, illicit relationships, and multiple-adultery. For some of us it was exotic dancing, escort services and prostitution. We used our bodies, intentionally dressed provocatively, and performed for others, creating an illusion that gave us a false sense of self-worth. We were addicted to the intrigue, the tease, and the forbidden. We jeopardized our relationships, jobs, morals and values; we even neglected our children. All the while, we rationalized our sexual behaviors. We asked ourselves, “What will a little fantasy hurt,” or “What they don’t know, won’t hurt them.” As we lived a double-life, we became disconnected from reality making true intimacy with another impossible. We carried this behavior from relationship to relationship and even into our marriages.
There are many reason why people stay in abusive relationships. But whatever the reason, the first step is to know for sure if you are in a potentially dangerous relationship? Take this quiz to find out. Abusers give early warning signs. Educate yourself on the early warning signs of a potentially dangerous relationship, and prepare a safety plan to get out.
Food addiction can go from simply seeking food as a comfort to compulsive over-eating, Anorexia or Bulimia. It’s a way of coping with our feelings of inadequacies by reaching out for a cure that would ultimately destroy us. It looks different for different people, but ultimately it’s about running from love, running from pain and living with shame and self-hate. Food addiction is progressive and can ultimately lead to kidney damage, destruction of teeth, malnutrition, cardiac arrest or diabetes.
Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families (formerly known as Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Those who grew up in a dysfunctional family or with an alcoholic parent or parents, whether they were abusive or neglectful, have a tendency to stuff the pain. Unfortunately, running from those memories or minimizing the experience, doesn't take away the pain, the fear and/or the feeling of isolation. A sadder reality is, that by not dealing with these issues, we tend to either carry out the same dysfunctional characteristics in our own lives or marry someone with them.
While everyone knows that physical pain can cause emotional pain, emotional pain can also cause physical pain. This becomes particularly important to recognize in the setting of chronic, medically unexplained pain syndromes. Teaching a patient how to control their lives, (taking control of emotional circumstances in life that render them trapped, helpless, overwhelmed and out of control), often has a marked reduction on somatic pain. Regaining control with direct healthy behavior and habits (Christ Driven Behavior) is hard work but results in regaining control of their pain and more importantly their life! Eat well, move well, think well.
Are you a teenager struggling with the realities of life or do you know a teen that is struggling? Come check out the Landing! The Landing is part of the Celebrate Recovery collection of programs designed specifically for students ages 13-18. The Landing at RHCC supports our Junior and High School ministries in providing teenagers Biblical, healthy ways to overcome the hurts and pressures of life. The Landing is based on the beatitudes where Jesus laid out principles for happiness in the Sermon on the Mount – The Landing is for teenagers who are struggling to live their lives in a healthy, God-honoring way. The Landing is designed to support our youth ministries in helping teenagers to be able to discuss their world as it is - not as grown-ups want it to be for them. The Landing is a safe, healing place where teenagers can live a freer, healthier, and more God-centered life.
The Landing can help foster hope, truth and joy as teenagers embark on an exciting journey of engaging videos, meaningful experiences, vibrant worship, and great conversation as they develop true friendships with other teens. The Landing breaks the cycles of dysfunction, giving our students the tools to face life’s hurts, hang-ups and habits in an new and healthy effective way.
Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."
Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”
John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"
Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."
Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."
Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.